I used to think I was bad at meditation.
I'd sit down, close my eyes, and within about thirty seconds, I'd be mentally writing a shopping list or replaying something someone said to me three weeks ago.
I assumed everyone else's mind just went quiet. Mine clearly hadn't got the memo.
So I gave up. Not dramatically, I just quietly decided it wasn't for me and moved on.
It took me ages to realise the wandering mind IS the practice. You notice it wandering. You come back. That's literally it. There's no version where your mind stays perfectly still. That's not meditation, that's unconsciousness.
The thing that actually helped me was stopping trying to do it right and just doing it.
Some days it's five minutes sitting quietly. Some days, it's just noticing my breath before I get out of bed. Some days it's barely anything at all.
And the one thing that made the biggest physical difference was the 4-second inhale, 2-second hold, 5-second exhale. Even two minutes of that and something shifts. Try it.
You're not bad at meditation. You just thought it was supposed to look different.
Heather x